I would be lying if I said 2020 was an amazing year for me. It wasn’t. Chances are pretty darn high that it wasn’t an amazing year for YOU either unless you are one of those people going around saying how amazing 2020 has been. We don’t associate with THOSE people. lol. Just kidding.
Yes, we can reflect on the blessings we did have in 2020 but its overall rating was negative 50.
2020 was a year for growth and transformation. It brought us collectively to our lowest of lowest so that together we can rise higher than ever before. They key word in that sentence is “together”. We are more connected then we think and the sooner that is truly understood, the sooner we can ….
As uncomfortable as it can be, I welcome tough times. I know that it is in the darkest of times that true growth and transformation can be born.
Here are the 6 lessons I learned in 2020:
1. Community Is Necessary
I have been preaching this for years. Its been a big part of my journey. When I left the US 4 years ago, I didn’t feel a part of a community. I felt alone. It wasn’t until I stumbled across this city in Mexico called Merida that I truly found community.
It came at just the right time because as we all know now something big was heading towards us in 2020 that would test us in ways we couldn’t even imagine. We would need each other to lean on this past year more than ever before. Even if our actual physical contact with our community was stopped, we could still lean on them for support.
We could walk by their homes and chat from a distance. We could create little social distancing pods to get us through the tough times. Collectively, we could hold space for each other.
Online communities were even more necessary. Finding like minded individuals that you could connect with online became a necessity. I am grateful for my Inner Circle Mommas. We got through this year together. Community is necessary.
2. The Time To Live Is NOW
Too many people are waiting to live despite the common saying that tomorrow is not guaranteed. People are going through the motions each day but so many people ARE NOT living.
Now, you get to define what living means to you. I define living as being in the present moment, living in gratitude, being open to new experiences and new people, and saying YES to life each chance you get. Truly living is having a purpose in life.
You don’t have to wait until next month or next year to start living. Start today. Time is so precious and we don’t know if we are going to be around 5 minutes from now much less a month or year from now so go all out. Truly experience love , joy, connectedness and purpose.
No more waiting. Take a little step today to truly start living your life. This little step might be starting with a gratitude list.
We all have things to be grateful for. Maybe you are grateful to live another day? Maybe you are grateful for the smile you received from the stranger last week? Maybe you are grateful the sun is shining or you have as steady pay check? Whatever it is list it.
When an opportunity comes up that you want to take, take it. There might be a whole bunch of fear and doubt you need to work through but do it anyways. This is your life to live so make sure you are truly living.
3. You Have To Let Go Of People And Things That Aren’t Good For You In Order To Make Room For The Positive
This was a tough lesson for me to learn this past year. Letting go has never been easy for me. Maybe I am a sucker for punishment but the though of letting go of people or things that no longer serve me is super difficult. It is necessary though.
When we let go of things, situations, and people that are no longer serving us, we make room for positivity to flow into our life. We are basically telling the Universe that we are open for more goodness to be sent our way.
When we hold onto the negative, we are telling the Universe that this is what we want. We want these negative situations, people, and experiences.
You’ve got to dig deep and let that sh*t go! I know it is not easy.
Let the guy go that is playing games, making excuses, and not meeting your needs.
Let the job go that is making you miserable.
Let the friends go that are not supportive of your dreams.
Let go of the idea that you are not good enough.
Letting go is NOT easy but is is powerful. Choose today to release everything not serving you and instead invite in POSITIVITY.
4. The 5 People Closest To You Should Be a Reflection Of Who You are or Who You Aspire To Be.
Who is in your Inner Circle? Take a close look at the 5 people who you are closest to. Do they inspire you? When you share your dreams, do they support you? After being around them, do you feel energized?
If you didn’t answer YES to these three questions, it is time to rethink your circle. One of the biggest game changers in my own life has been surrounding myself with high vibe dreamers, creators, visionaries, driven, and loving individuals.
Everyone from the clients I work with on daily basis to the friends I spend time with, are high vibe inspirational people. I don’t accept anything less in my life.
It is okay for you to let go of people who are bringing value to your life. It might sounds selfish but I consider it absolutely necessary. Who you choose to surround yourself with, plays a direct role in who you are as a person.
If the people closest to you aren’t making the cut, let them go with love and find new people. Seriously. This is important.
5. Gratitude Is One Of The Keys To Happiness
After and exceptionally difficult year, I really had to dig deep to overcome some funks. One of the main things I did was fall back on gratitude. Gratitude is one of the keys to happiness.
I launched my business one month prior to the pandemic being announced. Once the pandemic was announced, I lost 40 percent of my members and my log income also dropped significantly.
I will be super honest here. I wanted to quit. I wanted to give up. I almost told my Inner Circle Mommas that I would be pausing the membership site.
I was struggling mentally and emotionally with everything that was happening around the world.
At one point my business completely flat lined. What was coming in as far as income was equal to my business output which put our numbers at a big fat zero. This is business suicide for a brand new business.
I was one of those people in 2019 shouting out how amazing 2021 was going to be. I was swimming in the vision of 50k months. I was in for a very rude awakening. The joke was on me.
My business is also high dependent on me staying high vibe, innovated, and motivated. I have to be able to provide value in the forms of workshops, courses, and talks for my clients in order to retain their membership.
This can be challenging to do when you feel like your whole world is falling a part. My love for travel was taken away overnight. My sense of adventure crushed and the life of freedom I had created stolen from me or so I thought.
You see. I could have kept viewing my circumstances that way or I could change how I was looking at things. I chose to change the way I was looking at things. I went back to gratitude.
Gratitude has this amazing way of making you truly see a clear picture. Things might not be perfect right now but there are always things to be grateful for.
Every day I woke up and did gratitude journaling. I was doing work that I loved so who cares if we would have a few months that were tough for the business. If you are doing important work that matters, clients will come.
I had my health.
My daughters had their health.
I lived in Merida, Mexico where there is endless sunshine.
I had a loving and supportive community.
I was doing work that I loved working for myself.
I had a roof over my head. Shoot we even had a pool.
I also had fresh morning coffee every day.
If the existence of coffee isn’t more than enough for to be grateful for then I don’t know what is.
Always remember t go back to gratitude. Gratitude is an abundant attitude.
6. Struggles Are Necessary. Embrace Them.
I know this is a tough one for a lot of people to swallow but please listen. Life was never meant to be perfect. The tough times are what help us learn and grow. The lessons are revealed with time.
When I woke up to the fact that I was in an abusive marriage and that I was getting a divorce, I thought ,my life was over. I didn’t see hope. I felt like I would never find joy and love ever again. I was angry, sad, hurt, and defeated.
Now, I can say that my marriage and ultimate divorce was one of the best things that ever happened to me.
I learned so much in my marriage. I learned so much from my divorce as well. First of all, I learned just how strong I truly am. Sometimes you need to be taken to your knees to really see your strength. I had to pick myself.
My divorce showed me true friendship as well. My friend Maria and her husband were there every step up the way. They helped me pack up my marital home, sell the home I shared with my then husband, and move into a new smaller place.
They even supported me when I got the crazy idea to travel the world. Others judged and they encouraged me and even gave me places to stay on our return trips back to the US.
They probably don’t even know how grateful I am for them.
My divorce and marriage lead to me creating a business that I love helping other single moms find joy again their lives again. I wouldn’t be able to help others without first going through it myself.
So many things in my life that were extremely tough to face at the time lead to so many amazing things happening.
Can you reflect back on some struggles you have had to face in life? What lessons did you learn from those struggles. Comment below with your answer.
It is your turn. Let me know some lessons you learned in 2020.